Oh girl that happened to us too!! 😂😂 what a disaster. I had forgotten all about the “numba” as my then 3 year old daughter called it. He’s been retired for years now, rest his soul lol.
I had a similar experience this week. My son was upset because he had to stop playing with friends and go to jujitsu. He’s 9. He was making up all sorts of excuses why he couldn’t or shouldn’t go. This is the first week back to routine after being on vacation for 2 weeks. He was crying and irrational. Saying things like “I never going to get to play with my friends and no ones going to be able to play later, I hate jujitsu etc. I started to try and make him see that was not true, convince him otherwise, which was not helping.
I stopped and noticed how I was feeling. Very uncomfortable. I wanted his feelings to go away. I wanted to fix it for him. And then I just quit talking. The rest of the way to class I said nothing. Just let him act and feel how he wanted. He had calmed down when we got there, was quiet. Told him love you and have a great workout.
Before I quit drinking (2021) I would have continued to engage, to try and show him I was right, that what he felt was not true instead of just letting him work it out. Huge growth moment for me. I felt really proud. I was able to recognize in the moment that I am not responsible for other people’s feelings. I don’t have to control or fix things. They usually work themselves out.
He came home from class with his usual slurpee, sweaty and smiling.
Such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing! I too have become so much less reactive as a mom. I admit though it’s hard to just let my kids feel their very loud feelings sometimes. I try to tell my daughter - you’re allowed to be angry, but let’s figure out a productive way to express this protest of feelings. I never would have been patient enough to do that back in the day. Instead, I would have yelled back at her and then drank over the guilt of losing my cool.
I live alone with no pets, however I would never leave my roomba unsupervised. It climbs over shit and chews things up, as does any good vacuum. So we clean together. She does the main part while i do the edges with a small handheld and I am there to rescue her or anything that gets in her way. Believe me, I couldn't and wouldn't clean without her assistance, and am constantly dumping out the very small dust collector, but she gets the parts under the sofa and cedar chest that have never seen the light of day and for that I am very grateful.
I appreciate my ability to practice patience every single day, even in the shittiest of situations 😂
Haha absolutely!
Oh girl that happened to us too!! 😂😂 what a disaster. I had forgotten all about the “numba” as my then 3 year old daughter called it. He’s been retired for years now, rest his soul lol.
I had a similar experience this week. My son was upset because he had to stop playing with friends and go to jujitsu. He’s 9. He was making up all sorts of excuses why he couldn’t or shouldn’t go. This is the first week back to routine after being on vacation for 2 weeks. He was crying and irrational. Saying things like “I never going to get to play with my friends and no ones going to be able to play later, I hate jujitsu etc. I started to try and make him see that was not true, convince him otherwise, which was not helping.
I stopped and noticed how I was feeling. Very uncomfortable. I wanted his feelings to go away. I wanted to fix it for him. And then I just quit talking. The rest of the way to class I said nothing. Just let him act and feel how he wanted. He had calmed down when we got there, was quiet. Told him love you and have a great workout.
Before I quit drinking (2021) I would have continued to engage, to try and show him I was right, that what he felt was not true instead of just letting him work it out. Huge growth moment for me. I felt really proud. I was able to recognize in the moment that I am not responsible for other people’s feelings. I don’t have to control or fix things. They usually work themselves out.
He came home from class with his usual slurpee, sweaty and smiling.
Such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing! I too have become so much less reactive as a mom. I admit though it’s hard to just let my kids feel their very loud feelings sometimes. I try to tell my daughter - you’re allowed to be angry, but let’s figure out a productive way to express this protest of feelings. I never would have been patient enough to do that back in the day. Instead, I would have yelled back at her and then drank over the guilt of losing my cool.
Bunker beats Deez Nuts
Haha 🤣
Nothing like a poopfest to remind you of the finer things in life 🤣
Ha truly 😂
I live alone with no pets, however I would never leave my roomba unsupervised. It climbs over shit and chews things up, as does any good vacuum. So we clean together. She does the main part while i do the edges with a small handheld and I am there to rescue her or anything that gets in her way. Believe me, I couldn't and wouldn't clean without her assistance, and am constantly dumping out the very small dust collector, but she gets the parts under the sofa and cedar chest that have never seen the light of day and for that I am very grateful.
Thank you for sharing!