Discussion about this post

User's avatar
Sydney Allen's avatar

I appreciate my ability to practice patience every single day, even in the shittiest of situations 😂

Expand full comment
Amy Carter's avatar

Oh girl that happened to us too!! 😂😂 what a disaster. I had forgotten all about the “numba” as my then 3 year old daughter called it. He’s been retired for years now, rest his soul lol.

I had a similar experience this week. My son was upset because he had to stop playing with friends and go to jujitsu. He’s 9. He was making up all sorts of excuses why he couldn’t or shouldn’t go. This is the first week back to routine after being on vacation for 2 weeks. He was crying and irrational. Saying things like “I never going to get to play with my friends and no ones going to be able to play later, I hate jujitsu etc. I started to try and make him see that was not true, convince him otherwise, which was not helping.

I stopped and noticed how I was feeling. Very uncomfortable. I wanted his feelings to go away. I wanted to fix it for him. And then I just quit talking. The rest of the way to class I said nothing. Just let him act and feel how he wanted. He had calmed down when we got there, was quiet. Told him love you and have a great workout.

Before I quit drinking (2021) I would have continued to engage, to try and show him I was right, that what he felt was not true instead of just letting him work it out. Huge growth moment for me. I felt really proud. I was able to recognize in the moment that I am not responsible for other people’s feelings. I don’t have to control or fix things. They usually work themselves out.

He came home from class with his usual slurpee, sweaty and smiling.

Expand full comment
8 more comments...

No posts