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One Wild and Precarious Life's avatar

Great post!

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Kimberly Kearns's avatar

Thank you ☺️

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Kristen Crocker's avatar

This resonated with me so strongly. I was so nervous about blacking out at my (first) wedding. I sipped my champagne during dinner, and tentatively started drinking a beer well after the ceremony. We ended up going out afterwards and I did get very drunk. But I was still happy I didn’t get fall down drunk at my wedding. That was my greatest fear.

Ten years later, I’m sober and divorced. Got re-married at the court house, planning to sip Gruvi NoSecco when we have a ceremony in a few years 💕

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Kimberly Kearns's avatar

Yes, sounds about right! The wheels came off for me too after the reception ended and we went to the bar after. ooph! Congrats on your second wedding. Sounds like this one will be much better :)

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Ronni's avatar

Happy anniversary to an incredible couple. From strength to strength!!!!

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Kimberly Kearns's avatar

Thanks, Ronni!!

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Caroline Beidler, MSW's avatar

Happy anniversary. What a beautiful post ❤️it’s such an encouraging thing when we can notice where we’ve come from with new eyes of gratitude for the people who’ve been there through it all.

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Kimberly Kearns's avatar

Thank you! Absolutely. He certainly has seen it all!

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SLACK TIDE TALES's avatar

Happy Anniversary and congratulations on your sobriety and all the growth that has come with it. Loving yourself and your life goes a long way towards healing and you certainly have a lot to love and be proud of! Have a beautiful day.

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Kimberly Kearns's avatar

Thank you! We will!

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traci hickman's avatar

I love this and am glad to hear you didn't drink on that day. All of us in recovery have those moments where alcohol, whether we consumed it or not, stole our moments with the obsession of the mind. Its so powerful.

I'm living that now. My daughter is about to give birth to her second child. The day her first one was born, I kept telling myself all day I wasn't going to drink. They still had covid protocols in place so I couldn't be there but I still was consumed with NOT drinking that day. Sadly I didn't make it but today its not like that. I get to be there for every part of it and the blessing is that my daughter wants me there. Today alcohol is no longer my master or the thief of my joy. Thanks for sharing this.

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Kimberly Kearns's avatar

Ah yes, the obsession of the mind. I'm so happy you're able to be there for your second grandchild! Congrats!

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Allison Deraney's avatar

Beautiful writing and remembering, Kim! Congrats on 17 years of marriage!

This line - oooof. Really hit me - "I know that acknowledging the immutability of my past is a crucial step in moving forward. "

There's no sense in censoring or erasing our past. It got us here. And I like here. Easy to say, harder to do.

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